5 Tips for Men
Fellas, it's not hard to impress and intrigue an average woman, because average women enjoy mediocre things and honestly are not going to require much of you or the relationship. By an average woman, I mean someone who's content with playing number two (or three and four) in your life just as long as she has permission to post an adorable picture of you two on her Instagram page. This kind of woman isn't very concerned about your character, ambitions, or life's goals nor does she care about the foundation that the relationship was built upon. Now, if you're looking to woo a woman of substance who will better suit a spouse for a life-long relationship, here's a few tips that I think will help you out:
1. Be the person you want to attract! You can talk all day about how you want a woman to be "about her business" with a good head on her shoulders, but until you show yourself to be a young man who is about his business, this particular woman will want nothing to do with you. Don't ask for more than you're willing to give. If you want an ambitious woman, make sure you're a man full of ambitions. If you want a woman with self-respect that hasn't had sex with every man she could have, that means you need to be a man who also doesn't take the bait every time it's thrown at you! Learn to say no guys so that the right woman will say yes.
2. Chilling is not dating! I hope that when some of you guys ask girls to chill with you, you don't honestly consider this to be a date; although if you do, I would understand why because some girls really get excited about this. Listen, there is nothing wrong with hanging out at home with some pizza and movies. But most of you don't even do that much! Mature women like to go on dates, which consist of leaving the house and interacting with the outside world! If there is a young lady you're interested in, show her you're interested by asking about her interests and planning a date around that activity. She'll notice your effort and reward you with a second date if you behave, and who knows what that could lead to?
3. Making money is not impressive. You're an adult. Making money is what you're supposed to do. No pats on the back, sorry. We also know what money looks like, so we don't need to see pictures of it. The American dollar is our currency, so it's obviously relevant and required for survival. BUT money should not define you and it should not be your hottest topic of conversation. If you're dating the right woman, she will surely have money of her own, so yours won't mean anything to her. She'll be more concerned with what do you plan to do with your money? And if all of your money was to disappear tomorrow, who would you be without it?
4. Women date Men, not boys. I've always said that being a man must be tough. There are so many expectations and requirements that you all have! If you do too much of this, you're arrogant; and if you don't do enough of that, you're less of a man. I can't imagine! But there's nothing more attractive than a young man who wants to be a man that never runs away from the responsibilities that come along with being a good man. We look to you all as providers, protectors, and leaders. For women, those three qualities are essential in the decision making of dating someone or not. "Can he provide for himself? Will he stand up for me if necessary? Does he have the ability to lead others in a positive direction? Would he be able to lead me as the head of the household if we were married?" And yes, I mentioned marriage; which brings me to my last point!
5. Date with purpose. It's obvious that we've forgotten what dating was designed for. Dating is what two individuals do when they're getting to know one another to figure out whether or not they could spend the rest of their lives together, in a marriage. So in knowing that, you should pursue a woman with the intention of finding out whether or not you would make her your wife! Now, if you just read that and thought "yea right, I'm too young to be thinking about marrying anybody!" then dating is not for you, one night stands are. When you pursue a woman of substance, she'll be looking for you to express what you're looking for, and what you plan to do once you find it. It's important to note that this step will only be successful if you're ready to make that commitment. If you're not ready, save time and wait until you are. No matter how beautiful she is, it won't work unless you commit to making it work.
These five tips only touch the surface of what women like to see in men, but I figured it was a good starting point. Who knows, there may be a part two! ;)
-E
